Heart Matter – Parenting

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Becoming a parent is one thing that changes our lives forever and some days it all just seems to be too much. 

Wherever we look there is advice coming from every direction. And what is right one week may not be the right thing to do next week! Then we are to build “partnerships” with parents in our work as well. Sounds like a complicated job.

I remember as a young mum that I always worried about getting it wrong, then one day a dear friend said “don’t worry so much. God is the perfect father and even He has problems with His children!” That certainly put things in perspective. And that is the hope we can share with the all parents we meet and work with, whether as friends, in church or at work.  We get it wrong, we make mistakes but we have a great God who refuses to condemn us.

Of course there are the times when our children won’t eat the meal we worked so hard to cook, they seem to constantly fight with their brothers or sisters, or they have a tantrum in the shop……again! It can feel exhausting and we feel such failures. And then we see other mums and dads who seem to have everything worked out and never have a bad day. Before we know it we are worn out and convinced we are useless parents.

But our loving Father never tells us to work harder, to try to be better, to strive and wear ourselves out.

His call to us, to our heart,  is to “be still” and know that He is God. He calls us to seek Him, follow Him and rest with Him. Ok, that might not seem easy in our busy family lives but we can make the time we need to draw aside. For me this was always time in the garden. For others it is dog walking or the early morning just before everyone is up and about. And this isn’t about “me time” so much as being “Him and me time”.

Because that’s where the heart of this lies. God never thinks of us as a bad parent – He delights in us. And in the end, it is all about Him. His amazing grace, His love for us, and His unfailing faithfulness.  And even more amazing, His new and unending mercies, freely available to us every day.

So will quiet time alone  with God suddenly transform our children into angelic beings who behave perfectly? No, but it means we have the strength and faith to go through the tricky days, knowing His love and care for our children is beyond all we could ask or imagine.

He truly delights in us, He truly is faithful. And we can show His love and care for the parents He brings across our path.  Maybe it is time to be honest about the challenges we face, and thankful for His provision and grace. This could be the greatest way to show His love to other parents. They might not believe in Him, but  we can show that He believes in them. We can share that, even on the difficult days, we all have a loving Father who says “you’re doing a great job”.

Our Abba, Father,  is on our side, and He REALLY understands what it is like to have challenging children !

Psalm 40:2-3 – You “pulled me from a lonely pit full of mud and mire.  You let me stand on a rock with my feet firm, and you gave me a new song, a song of praise to you. Many will see this, and they will honour and trust you, the LORD God.”


Heart Matter – Sing and Make Music From Your Heart To The Lord*

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From the moment our daughter could make any sound at all, she has been a singer and music maker.

I have a vivid memory of her as a one-year-old, pushing her walker full of wooden bricks and whistling! It seems that music is part of her DNA, and it is undoubtedly part of her spiritual DNA. It is such a blessing to hear her worship; and I’m triply blessed as I also have a daughter-in-law with a beautiful voice and a son who plays guitar in their church band. Our house was always full of songs and I cannot imagine it any other way.

What is it about music that seems to get under our defenses and connect with our hearts like nothing else can?

Whether we are crying out in adoration and praise, or from the depths of pain and sorrow, it is often listening to a praise or worship song that allows us to express deeply those intimate feelings. We know that David could calm the rage of Saul, and we see time and again the use of music to lead God’s people to victory. It seems that the heartbeat of God, His love and compassion, His joy and creativity, they all flow through music and songs and touch us more than anything else can.

And this brings me to the sadness I feel when it seems that music and singing are disappearing from our preschools and nurseries. 

When we visited the Kindergartens in Hungary a few years ago, we were overwhelmed with the beauty and quality of the singing by such young children. There is an expectation that teachers will be excellent musicians and this is reflected in all aspects of Kindergarten life, where children sing with enthusiasm and joy. Is the loss of singing here to do with lack of confidence, inhibitions or just a feeling that it is not important enough?

I suspect it may be all of those and so I would encourage you, wherever you are, however nervous you feel, to take the plunge and start singing again with the children in your care. If you’re not confident then practice at home. Ask some of the other adults to sing along with you, you can do it. Look up those gentle lullabies for our babies, timeless and soothing, we need to ensure we don’t lose them. And don’t be afraid to make up songs about everything from sweeping leaves to skipping home!

A life for young children without music or singing around them seems a bit like a black and white childhood, rather than one with the fullness of joy and colour.

And it may mean they do not have those times where God can reach through the dark times and use music to soothe their souls and lift their spirits.  If we sometimes need to weep in worship, to dance and jump for joy, or sit quietly while the love of God washes over us through music, then I am sure that young children need these times too.

There is no disadvantage to bringing young children and music together and, by experiencing it frequently in many ways, singing to the Lord from their hearts just may draw them that much closer to their heavenly Father just when they need it.

*Ephesians 5:19 my paraphrase

The Joy Of The Lord

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Who can fail to smile at this lovely photo?

Pure, uninhibited joy and laughter.One of the most wonderful things about working with our youngest children is how easily they laugh and how much fun there is every day.

God tells us “the joy of the Lord” is our strength. There is nothing like laughing together, and nothing will life our spirits more than laughing out loud, even when things seem stacked against us. We can lose sight of the joy we have in Christ when we face daily paperwork, ever changing expectations and stressful situations. But God really is the source of joy and strength for us every single day.

He doesn’t tell us to grin and bear it, to stick on a smiley face or to pretend everything is ok. But He does provide an unending source of joy and hope in Him.

Take a few minutes to listen and join in with the sounds of laughter from the children around you or the wind in the trees…stopping to re-focus on God can release us from so much tension. Let the living, bubbling water of the Spirit flow from within.

Be still just for a few moments and think that even the “trees of the forest will sing for joy”.